Dietrich Bonhoeffer before his death in the
Flossenbürg concentration camp in 1945
God does not fill the gap . . .
Nothing can make up for the absence
of someone we love. . . . It is nonsense
to say that God fills the gap; God
doesn't fill it but on the contrary, God
keeps it empty and so helps us keep
alive our former communion with
each other, even at the cost of pain. . . .
The dearer and richer our memories,
the more difficult the separation. But
gratitude changes the pangs of memory
into a tranquil joy. The beauties of the
past are borne, not as a thorn in the
flesh, but as a precious gift in themselves.