Monday, June 20, 2016

Monday's Mourning Ministry - Does Jesus Care?





"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed." ~Psalm 34:18, New Living Translation:



Monday's Mourning Ministry

Does Jesus Care?

~George Beverley Shea and Guy Penrod









We are bereaved.

We are broken.

We are inconsolable.



We are like Rachel 

weeping for her children...

and 

refusing 

to 

be 

comforted.*




(Jeremiah 31:15 NASB)





We are like Hagar in the wilderness:

"Do You see me God? 

Do You see me 

in this 

wilderness of despair 

with 

no 
hope 

apart 

from 

You?"

(Genesis 16:13)*






In the brokenness of our hearts, 

we wonder 


if God sees, 

if God hears, 

if God has forgotten, 

if God has abandoned us? 


We ask ourselves, 

Does God really care about me? 

Does Jesus care?




And God says to us
as He
said 
to 
Hagar




for the Lord Has heard your painful groans...

Genesis 16:11 (Net Bible)








Does Jesus Care?

~George Beverley Shea and Guy Penrod



  1. Does Jesus care when my heart is pained
    Too deeply for mirth or song,
    As the burdens press, and the cares distress,
    And the way grows weary and long?
    • Refrain:
      Oh, yes, He cares, I know He cares,
      His heart is touched with my grief;
      When the days are weary, the long nights dreary,
      I know my Savior cares.

  2. Does Jesus care when my way is dark
    With a nameless dread and fear?
    As the daylight fades into deep night shades,
    Does He care enough to be near?
  3. Refrain:
    Oh, yes, He cares, I know He cares,
    His heart is touched with my grief;
    When the days are weary, the long nights dreary,
    I know my Savior cares.

  4. Does Jesus care when I’ve tried and failed
    To resist some temptation strong;
    When for my deep grief there is no relief,
    Though my tears flow all the night long?
  5. Refrain:
    Oh, yes, He cares, I know He cares,
    His heart is touched with my grief;
    When the days are weary, the long nights dreary,
    I know my Savior cares.

  6. Does Jesus care when I’ve said “goodbye”
    To the dearest on earth to me,
    And my sad heart aches till it nearly breaks—
    Is it aught to Him? Does He see?
  7. Refrain:
    Oh, yes, He cares, I know He cares,
    His heart is touched with my grief;
    When the days are weary, the long nights dreary,
    I know my Savior cares.
When the days are weary, the long nights dreary,
I know my Savior cares.




~~~





"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted;
           He rescues those whose spirits are crushed." 


~Psalm 34:18, New Living Translation












Grief Picture: https://www.pinterest.com/pin/63683782205419268/

* Quotes from The Inconsolable by Julie Jones written in memory of her son, Kyle Christopher Jones

NASB: New American Standard Bible

Net Bible: New English Translation of the Bible

Does Jesus Care Lyrics by Frank E. Graeff, 1901

Song, Does Jesus Care on YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kheJYjttzY4


Sunday, June 19, 2016

Blessed Father's Day - Honoring Fathers Grieving Loss of Child - Part Two







When you lose someone it can be hard to take
The pain that you feel when your heart has to break
The memories you keep are all in your mind
As you search your soul for more to find

The way their skin felt the smell of their hair
As you keep thinking over and shedding a tear
The years may pass, memories fade to grey
But you're getting no younger you'll see them someday

Unconditional love is never forgotten
Look deep in your heart it is there at the bottom
Alone in the dark sometimes in fear
Voices from loved ones you're hoping to hear

More years pass, they soon fly by
But (you're) always looked upon from those in the sky
Surrounded by clouds and pure white doves
They listen and watch sending you love

Just remember one thing as you sit and you pray
They will be there to greet you, you will see them someday.

~ Stephan Banks



Blessed Father's Day

Honoring Fathers Grieving Loss of Child

Part Two








You will lose someone you can’t live without, 
and your heart will be badly broken, 
and the bad news is that you never completely 
get over the loss of your beloved. 
But this is also the good news. 
They live forever in your broken heart that 
doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. 
It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly - 
that still hurts when the weather gets cold, 
but you learn to dance with the limp.

~ Anne Lamott




~~~





Since the day you left me,
I have realized that in grieving, 
one never heals from the pain
of losing a loved one.
I have just learned to live one
day at a time with a heartache 
that has become a part of me.

~Narin Grewal




~~~





There are things that we don't want to happen
but have to accept,
Things we don't want to know,
but have to learn,
And people we can't live without
but have to let go….




~~~





Nobody knows the real me. Nobody
knows how many times I've cried in 
my room when nobody was watching.
Nobody knows how many times I've
lost hope, how many times I've been
let down. Nobody knows how many 
times I've felt like I'm about to snap,
but I just don't, for the sake of others.
Nobody knows the thoughts that go
through my head when I'm sad, how
horrible they truly are.
Nobody. Knows.  Me.




~~~





"When will this pain be over?
When is it going to shift?" I asked
a friend. He said, "Its just going 
to take time and distance." ... I
realized there are no corners.
Grief isn't linear. It expands in 
all directions.
So does my compassion,
my love and my meaning

~Benjamin Allen




~~~






The future is
missing. I am
missing a future.
I had plans.
I had dreams.
I had hopes.
Where did
everything go?
Where did I go?

~Benjamin Allen




~~~





I entered the Afterloss
broken and shattered. It's 
like I had this big bag of 
fragments I once called
life and dumped them in
the middle of this new
world and said, "Here. This
is all I've got left. What
can I do with this?

~Benjamin Allen




~~~





Grief isn't linear.
My living in sorrow isn't a progression
of getting better and better.
It's getting deeper and deeper.
The deeper I go the more it looks like on
the surface as doing nothing.
I have become grateful on those days I
simply can't do those surface things.
It tells me I'm doing the deeper dance 
of healing the hurt.

~Benjamin Allen




~~~





GRIEF
is the last act
of love we can
give to those we 
loved. 
Where there is
deep grief.
there was great love.




~~~





Nothing will ever be the
same. Your life has been
forever changed.

Grief is uncovering what
that change is and where
loss is leading you.

~Benjamin Allen




~~~





Tears are the silent
language of grief.  

~Voltaire 




~~~





The only cure
for grief is to

grieve.

~Earl A. Grollman




~~~





Do Not Judge

"You don't know what storm I've asked him to walk through."

~God

~Grieving Fathers




~~~






Sometimes, it feels better
not to talk. At all.
About anything.
To anyone.

~Grieving Fathers




~~~





Please be patient
with me. Sometimes
when I'm quiet, 
it's because I 
need to figure 
myself out. It's
not because I
don't want to 
talk. Sometimes
there are no words 
for my thoughts.

~Kamla Bolanos




~~~





Every man
has his secret sorrows
which the world
knows not; and often
times we call
a man cold when
he is only sad.

~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

~Grieving Fathers




~~~





Before you judge my life,
my past or my character...
Walk in my shoes, walk the
path I have traveled,
Live my sorrow, my doubts,
my fear, y pain and my
laughter...

Remember
Everyone has a story.
When you've lived
my life then you can
judge me.

~Grieving Fathers




~~~





Just Because
My Eyes Don't Tear
Doesn't Mean
My Heart Doesn't Cry.
And Just Because
I Come Off Strong,
Doesn't Mean
There's Nothing Wrong.

~Grieving Fathers




~~~





GRIEF
is NOT a medical
condition that can
be cured.

It is a NATURAL Part of life.

It is a life
experience that
cannot be rushed.

~Grieving Fathers




~~~





There is no right way to grieve.
But there is one wrong way:
trying not to grieve.
Never give in to pressure
to hide or shame your pain.
Your loss belongs to you.

~Tim Lawrence




~~~





No person has the right to
condemn you on how you 
repair your heart or how
long you choose to grieve,
because no one knows how 
much you're hurting.
Recovering takes time, and
everyone heals at his or her
own pace.

~Grief and Healing in The Afterloss




~~~





I'm not wallowing in grief.
I'm courageously living my truth.
I am a bereaved parent
and this grief is part of my life now.
Now how about if you stop wallowing
in judgement and assumptions?

~Grief and Healing in The Afterloss




~~~





I'm in a crowded room,
but yet I feel so alone,
I am an angel daddy,
but yet I feel so unknown,
we lost our child, 
yes mum & dad,
but yet it's me who's strong,
when mummy is sad,
I am broken inside,
outside is a shell,
it feels like no-one can hear me,
no mater how loud I yell, 
I'm not angry,
I am just sad,
please don't forget me,
for I'm an angel Dad.

~Grieving Fathers




~~~





"There's no way around grief and loss; 
you can dodge all you want, 
but sooner or later you just have to go into it, 
through it, 
and hopefully, come out the other side. 

The world you find there will never be 
the same as the world you left." 

~Johnny Cash

"Hope" painting by Sharon Cummings 

~Far Side of the Rainbow




~~~





"I can't be strong today
Tomorrow will be a different day...
I'll be strong tomorrow, but today I'm 
just going to be sad."

~Trevor White

~Grieving Fathers




~~~





Losing a child changes us.
Not just for the first few days,
or weeks
or months.

Losing a child changes us,
not just for the first year,
but for life.

~Grieving Fathers




~~~





"Only people who are capable of loving strongly 
can also suffer great sorrow…." 

~Leo Tolstoy




~~~





Sometimes I don't know
if the tears I cry
are for you,
or for myself

because I must now 
live without you.

Two things I do know...
I love you,
and I miss you so much
my heart hurts.

~Grieving Fathers




~~~





Without you in
my arms, I feel an
emptiness in my
soul. I find myself
searching the
crowds for your
face --- I know it's
an impossibility,
but I cannot help 
myself."

~Nicolas Sparks




~~~





The mention of my child's name may bring tears to my eyes, 
but it never fails to bring music to my ears. 
If you are really my friend, 
let me hear the beautiful music of his name. 
It soothes my broken heart and sings to my soul.

~ Author Unknown

Painting by Heidi Malott




~~~





Grief is like the ocean; it comes on, waves
ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is 
calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming.
All we can do is learn to swim."

~Vicki Harrison




~~~





"There were times when I
would go through massive
waves of grief... I just
had to ride it out. When
they subsided it led to an 
expansion of heart, a deeper 
way of relating to life and
those I love."

~Benjamin Allen




~~~





MISSING You
Comes in WAVES

TONIGHT ...  I'm

Drowning.

~Grieving Fathers




~~~





I just miss you.


(a lot)


~Grief and Healing in The Afterloss




~~~





"Grief is not just a series of
events, stages, or timelines.
Our society places enormous
pressure on us to get over
loss, to get through grief.
But how long do you grieve
for a husband of fifty years,
a teenager killed in a car
accident, a four-year-old
child: a year? Five years?
Forever?

"The loss happens in time, in
fact in a moment, but its 
aftermath lasts a lifetime."

~Elisabeth Kübler-Ross




~~~





When people ask how your life is going...


~Grieving Fathers




~~~





Dear Lord,
Please wrap Your arms around
those who are hurting today,
and let then feel how much 
You love them. Amen.











~The Far Side of the Rainbow (photo and poem)


~The Far Side of the Rainbow (photo)


~The Far Side of the Rainbow (quote)

~Grieving Fathers


~Grieving Fathers


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grief Diaries


~Grieving Fathers


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~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grieving Fathers


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~The Far Side of the Rainbow


~Grieving Fathers


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~The Far Side of the Rainbow
https://www.facebook.com/farsideoftherainbow/photos/a.265765910132193.59124.259827837392667/1016966428345467/?type=3&permPage=1

~Grieving Fathers


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~The Far Side of the Rainbow


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grieving Fathers


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss


~Grief and Healing in the Afterloss
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~Grieving Fathers


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